‘I give up’.
The three most fatal words in the English language.
When you give up, there is nothing anybody can do to help you. Most importantly however there is nothing that you can do to help yourself unless you make a concerted, conscious effort to get out of the rut. I know this to be true because I am no stranger to feelings of doubt and extreme anxiety. Anxiety is healthy but only in small amounts, and can soon lead to negativity. Negativity will grind you down. If it becomes excessive it can cause untold destruction in your life.
Now I am back on track, but there’s still work to be done.
Instead of focusing on the wrong things you’ve done, focus on celebrating the things you have achieved. These things don’t necessarily have to be black and white ‘good’ or ‘bad’ choices. There are many reasons why you may or may not do something. Everybody makes mistakes. To quote a fellow YouTuber for whom I have a great respect: “The only real mistakes in life are the ones that you don’t learn from.”
Here’s a personal example. This year I acted on something which had consequences, but I nevertheless believe that I made the right decision. I got rid of the job I hated knowing that I would have to find new ways of making ends meet quickly. Though it made things a little harder temporarily, it was the step in the right direction as far as my emotional well-being was concerned. Sometimes risks need to be taken in pursuit of a better future and a better you.
I now have a job that I truly love. Whilst it’s only a small job at present it is also one that I hope may lead to future opportunities. I am actively seeking to move myself towards the places I want to be in life whilst moving away from the places I don’t want to be. Nobody wants to feel stuck.